Humanity and in particular the youth of today are in big trouble. They are getting hit with alcohol, porn, sex, vape/smoke, gambling, sugar, coffee, fast food, gender confusion, sexual confusion etc from all angles. From the Tv, to social media, to the radio. The list is endless. Yes, all of those listed above are quite harmful and dangerous in their own unique way. Which basically destroys your power and human potential to enhance and enrich the people who made all of this readily available. However, the “Hookup” culture amongst our society today is rife. Casual sex and ‘hooking up’ has become the “norm” in our society, it has replaced the once very sacred love between Man and Woman. The ‘Hookup’ culture is everywhere from our screens and in our books. Think of movies such as ‘Friends With Benefits’ and ‘No Strings Attached.’ These movies are programming you to have a sexual encounter where no feelings are attached. Which is just ‘hooking up.’ Can you see how this is normalised? Another prime example of this is the gender programming in our Tv shows. In society men are programmed to sabotage their relationships with women and to deal with a break up by getting drunk, going out with their buddies and having a one night stand.. Take a look at Friends (TV Show) we had the character Joey who never had a serious relationship, and was a player who slept with multiple women. Another one to look at is Two and a Half Men where you had Charlie who was a lonely rich guy who slept with multiple women and when he had a serious relationship or nice women come in he would ruin it, usually by cheating... For women it's sitting either watching or listening to love stories and songs eating chocolate and ice- cream. I could go on for days about how this is done, another one being your soap operas you watch. Except there is not just hooking up, there is cheating, lying and stealing on top of that as well. Which is total garbage. All of it utter garbage, it is disconnecting you from yourself and programming you to believe that you should shy away from love and just have casual meaningless sex.
Look around the culture of our youth and you will see just how rife this ‘Hook up’ culture is. The youth of today shy away from getting to know another human being. They instead ask what the other person's body count is. A body count that I am referring to here means the amount of people one person has slept with. The young boys out there just want to get their numbers up and they do not care about who they hurt along the way. They talk to hundreds of girls in the hope one of them sleeps with them. They do not just focus on one girl they have multiple… Furthermore, they are self - sabotaging themselves from finding love, meaning, desire and purpose by doing this. The same can be said for females who just want a quick ‘hook up.’ How do I know this? Well, I was one of those young boys for a very long time. This ‘hookup’ culture programming almost destroyed me, my mind, my spirit and my soul.
The ‘hookup’ culture programming was deeply embedded inside my psyche from a very young age. All I wanted since I discovered porn was to have sex, it was literally all I craved. From the age of 17 - 26 that's all I did. I would watch porn during the week and have as much loveless, casual meaningless sex as I could on weekends and hit repeat. There were multiple triggers.. The main one was a break up I went through when I was 20. My first relationship, as they say the first one hurts the most. You can read about that here: https://www.teenageselfsabotage.com/post/my-dark-knight-of-the-soul-casual-sex-and-why-i-did-it
The path of hooking up and having casual meaningless sex for me was a never ending cycle. I would have some of the nicest women come into my life and I would just be looking for one thing and when I got it, that was it I ghosted that woman or sabotaged it by hooking up with their friend.. If a woman got too close, I would head for the hills. Run in the opposite direction. Then it was onto the next encounter.. This cycle repeated itself for 8 years. Thankfully through seeking help and being guided to some amazing people I gained the conscious awareness of why I was doing this? Why was I destroying myself? Why I was so scared and scarred from love. Once I was able to forgive myself, apologise to the women I hurt and release all of the fear, guilt and shame through quite a lot of deep inner work and crying. Yes Men and Boys it is absolutely okay to cry… . This has since opened my heart up to love. But not just love for another, but love for myself and I have since discovered the love for the things I do again. It has added purpose and meaning back into my life. Something I did not have for a very long time. You can do this too. You can Break Free from this programming. this cycle of hook up. Read my blog about ‘Love’ Here: https://www.teenageselfsabotage.com/post/_love
You can find love for yourself, you can find love for another, you can find your purpose, and your meaning of being here again. Allow me the privilege to delve into all of this with you and put you back on your path for greatness, success, health, abundance and so much more! Let's rewire your subconscious mind and open that heart back up to the unconditional true love you deserve. It starts with you and it ends with you.. I look forward to working with you. Thanks for reading.
Nathan Francis - Youth Self Sabotage Coach.